Monday, June 24, 2013
First off let me start off by apologizing for how long it's been since I last wrote. There are a million different reasons I haven't gotten around to sitting down at my computer since March 1st, beginning with I was busy and ending with life happens. But when life happens, it happens for both the good and bad, and luckily most of what has happened to me since I last wrote has been for good.
I came back from my year spent teaching English abroad in Daegu, South Korea on February 24th with no real plan except to hit the pavement running. My last few weeks in Korea came with a few interesting surprises, the first being an interview with Warby Parker, and the second a post of mine went viral on BuzzFeed and caught the attention of a few of their editors.
Another thing about life is that when it happens, it usually happens all at once. And so when my feet touched the ground in the good old U S of A, my very first stop was the Verizon store. I needed a phone, or more specifically a phone number, because I needed to follow up on these job leads. Long story short, I was offered a third round interview with Warby Parker and an offer to participate in BuzzFeed's editorial fellowship program. I took the latter and have since been officially hired full-time as a BuzzFeed staff writer. So in reality it's not that I've stopped writing, only I've started doing it as a living. But alas the point of this story was not to brag, but rather to make a point. In order to get somewhere, sometimes you have to take a chance on you.
Before I left for my year in Korea I has absolutely no clue what I was doing with my life, thus moving to a foreign country to avoid having to figure out. For the six months in between graduating college and moving abroad I moved back in with my parents and helped out as the office manager of my dad's dental practice. It was hard, to say the least. I felt like a failure, living at home with no friends, and nothing but my student loans to accompany me. But eventually I made it through and moved to South Korea. While there, I spent my free time writing, because.... well frankly because most days after my morning classes were through there was nothing better to do. So I wrote and wrote, until things started happening. I was offered a spot as a regular contributor to The Conversation, HelloGiggles, and Darling Magazine. After that I started this very site, while on vacation in the Philippines. I didn't think of myself as a writer, until one day I decided enough was enough. The only that was stopping me from being a "writer" was my fear of calling myself one.
I changed my twitter bio later that night. Writer, blogger & Taylor Swift connoisseur. And now less than six months later I am a writer by trade. Did I deserve this opportunity the most? Probably not. Was I the absolute, 100% most qualified person for the job? There's no way. But the one thing I did do was try. I put myself out there, because I wanted it so badly. And that's the thing, most often in life the only obstacle that's really standing in your way is you. You've kept yourself from taking the plunge, because deep down inside you're afraid to fail, afraid to be rejected, to put yourself out there. But I'm telling you now, no one will ever take a chance on your until you take a chance on yourself.
So go on, make that day today. Change your twitter bio, send out your resume, or just finally let yourself settle into the possibility that maybe, if you put your mind to it, you could actually become the person you've always dreamed of being. Today is the day, take a chance on yourself and you'll be surprised at how quickly the universe will conspire in your favor.
Friday, March 1, 2013
I recently received an email asking me how I became so knowledgeable about such a wide breath of topics at such a young age. "How did you do it? How do you know so much?"
The answer: I read it. Though I may be the author of Twenty & To, a site dedicated to helping you get your life together in your 20s, I hope you understand in no way do I pretend to have all the answers to life's toughest twenty-something questions. In fact, one of the main reasons I started this site was because I myself felt lost, and ultimately decided it would be better to journey alongside those who felt the same rather than continue along on my own. So if you are feeling lost, you're in the right place.
However there is a catch: it's okay to feel lost as long as you don't stay there. Life is like a big winding road. Inevitably from time to time you are going to have to stop and ask for directions, but the important thing is that you keep moving forward, even if you feel lost every once in a while. The reality remains, it is better to go somewhere rather than nowhere at all. Great, but how do I get going? How do I get unlost?
Three words: Read. Read. Read.
Monday, February 4, 2013
I started Twenty & To just over six months ago and am honored to have had such a positive response from friends, family and of course you, the readers. So before I go any further I wanted to take this opportunity to thank you for being such an incredibly loyal community. Thank you for reading, commenting, sharing and emailing me, it has meant the world.
P.S. I love hearing from you, so if you ever feel like saying hello or suggesting an article topic feel free to email me at email@example.com or tweet me @itsashleyperez.
That being said the most common question I get from friends and followers is, "how do I become a blogger"? And so in the spirit of paying it forward I thought I'd share with you the basics of blogging from my own personal experience.