Although Smart Girls at the Party is directed at teens and tweens, I recently found one of her videos so helpful that I thought I'd share it with you here. After all, sometimes the best advice you can give is someone else's— so here is Amy's advice on getting someone to notice you.
"The way to try and get guys to notice you is to stop trying— to let go of the idea of trying."
She's right. In the end we can't be someone other than who we are, and trying to make ourselves someone we're not for the sake of another only leads us further and further away from ourselves.
"You don't have to let go of what you want.. but this feeling of trying... of what can I do to change myself to get people to like me is kind of a tough one, because then you start to think about the external."
So what's the answer?
"Being with ourselves, think about what we like to do, who we are, and what makes us happy. Because letting go, suddenly is an act of faith, and the universe provides what was meant to be. So maybe if you stop trying... you can take some of that energy and turn it back on yourself, and then you become more attractive when you love yourself. You attract the right things when you know who you are."
And finally the thing that we all need to hear, whether we're fifteen, twenty-three, or forty-one.
"I bet that everything you have right now is everything that you need. And I bet you don't need to change one thing about yourself."
Thanks Amy for the great advice.