Why Is It So Hard To Be A 20something?

Now I don't know how you feel about Taylor Swift. Personally I love her, but I know plenty a person who doesn't care for her, which is perfectly within your rights. However regardless of how you feel about Taylor Swift, I think you'll agree that she's nailed being a 20something right on the head in her new song, 22.

"We're happy, free, confused and lonely at the same time. 

It's miserable and magical." 

- Taylor Swift, "22"

The simple fact is that being a 20something is just plain hard... and wonderful, it's wonderfully hard. There is something about this decade which makes life seemingly impossible to navigate. Really there are just too many questions that come with your 20s, and big ones too. What do you want to do with your life? Who are you going to date/break-up with/cry over/marry? Where do you want to live? How on earth do you make friends outside of college? Are you a good person? Is it still okay to drink this much? Am I supposed to act like an adult now? See what I mean, overwhelming and seemingly endless.

So, what's the answer? That's why you're here, right? To get your life together in your 20s. Is that even possible? The answer is yes, to an extent. Is this a cop out? Maybe. But in reality the truth is your life will never be 100% together and the moment you think it is you're either seriously fooling yourself or worse, dead.

I wanted to write this post specifically for a few reasons. First to show a little solidarity. I founded Twenty & To because I really do believe that your 20s can be a growing, even pleasant experience. However I wanted to clarify the fact that I don't actually have it all together. I, like you, am just trying my best to figure things out. Second to say that it really does get better. I've only lived three years of my 20s, but already I can say things are looking up. I won't lie, there are days I wonder what the hell I'm doing with my life-- if I've saved enough money, been to enough parties, been on enough dates, etc. But really at the end of the day, I'm more confident in myself now than I was three years ago. Heck, I'm more confident in myself today than I was a week ago.

Your 20s are rough and they will continue to be, but if you learn to face them for what they are, an incredible opportunity to screw up repeatedly and come out knowing more about yourself as a person than ever before, then it the end it's not so scary to be you at 22. In fact when you look at it that way, it's kind of one giant adventure, and who doesn't love an adventure?

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